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Rejection is something we all have experienced in some form or another. If not careful, rejection can lead to several emotional and psychological traumas like, low self-esteem, discouragement, anger, depression, and suicidal thoughts. The word reject is defined as- refuse to accept, consider or grant. Just the very definition of the word alone, brings hurtful feelings when it’s been done to you. The idea that someone won’t accept or want us causes instant heartbreak, whether if it is a parent, spouse, friend or  a love interest.

Knowing that you are good godly man or woman, you may wonder why and what’s wrong with you. A common phrase that is said a lot is, “Get over it”. To me, this is one of the most insensitive and unrealistic things to say to someone who has suffered a hurtful rejection. It’s like telling someone who is very sick, “Oh, just get well”. The reality is we don’t just get over it so easily. Just like a physical scar takes time to heal, so does an emotional scar. And the healing doesn’t come any quicker by someone telling us “Get over it”. However, we don’t have to have a low self-esteem or feel sorry for ourselves. We may not be that person’s choice but we will be someone else’s choice and more importantly we are God’s choice.

God’s acceptance is the only one that really matters. When we are accepted in the beloved, we have God’s favor upon our lives and when we have his favor; his blessings are bestowed upon us. Proof of this is shown in the lives of the heroes of faith who were also rejected. David was the youngest son of Jesse’s seven other sons. (I Sam 16:10-11/ I Sam 17:12-14) David was not regarded by his father to be presented before Samuel as a selection for the next king of Israel. But David was already God’s choice and Samuel sought him out and anointed him King.

Joseph was rejected by his older brothers. Because Joseph was loved more than his brothers by his father Jacob, they hated him, threw him in a pit and sold him into slavery to the Egyptians. Although Joseph was serving as a slave, God was still with Joseph. Joseph served Potiphar faithfully with diligence and integrity. (Gen 39:1-6) Joseph was later elevated as food commissioner and was second only to the pharaoh in power (Gen 41:37-57).

Lastly, our Lord and Savior was rejected, who did no sin or wrong. There was a prophetic mention of his rejection. “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and familiar suffering” (Isa 53:3). But the day will come when every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of the Father. So, as we can see we are in good company with the issue of rejection. And rejection does not in any way take away or diminish our value and worth to God. It’s important to remember that God has a plan for our lives and that entails giving us His best. The Bible lets us know that God will not withhold any good thing from those who walk up right before him. So when rejection happens, just know God has something better for us.

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